What do you say when your fiancé announces that his or her parents want you to sign a pre-nuptial agreement? You’re suddenly wondering what your future in-laws really think of you. And, what do you say to your future husband (or wife) now that you’re feeling like a gold digger?
That all important pre-nup doesn’t mean your relationship will fail. It’s simply a contract designed to protect assets and interests. And the time to discuss it is when you and your spouse-to-be are in a rationale frame of mind. If you’re faced with the prospect of signing one, be sure you’re very clear about all the points outlined and only sign it after you let your attorney review it.
As an engaged couple conversation should come easily. Don’t run away from sticky subjects that can mushroom into full blown arguments once you are married. Avoiding sensitive topics until after you are married is a huge mistake. Huge! Just being married doesn’t guarantee happiness. When you get past the love, compatibility, sex, respect and any other good stuff, there’s the fine print. Those are the topics that may be sticky. Don’t sweat it. If you don’t review the terms and conditions in advance, the next fine print you may be reading could be on a divorce decree.
If you haven’t had your “must-have” conversations, this is the time to clear the air and make your feelings heard. You don’t have to agree on everything – just the topics that can make or break a relationship.
• Discuss religious commitments
• Get clear on finances – Spender or Saver
• Be sure about children
• Talk about career paths
• Who Handles Domestic responsibilities
Start talking now!
– HRK –